Monday March 10, 2014
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I saw an article on crying babies. Its title was. "Hands-off approaches OK for sleepless infants, study says."
I made a quick scan of the first paragraph: "An infant who cries through the night -- or even a fraction of the night -- can have a big impact on a household. Parents who repeatedly wake up to soothe and cradle their baby may find themselves sleep-deprived, stressed-out, and even depressed."
"That's true!" I thought, so I read on, hoping to pass on some good news as I sometimes get to do.
We've all been through it, haven't we? Into bed for a good night's sleep. Then comes that tiny cry from the next room. We get up and go and into the baby's room to see what's wrong. Usually it's obvious. A diaper needs changing. It's feeding time. That red face plainly says colic. Or something needs a speck of Desenex. Okay, we can fix that. We do. Back to sleep.
Into the article I went, looking for answers I could pass along. Dr. Patricia Ritch, a pediatric neurologist and sleep specialist at Scott & White Healthcare, in Temple, Texas, said, "If the infant or child doesn't sleep, the parent doesn't sleep, and this can have an impact on the parent's mental well-being, as well as productivity in the workplace."
Truer words were never said. And the solution she offered? Well, nothing. I read on.
Aha! A "landmark study" from Australia. What does it say? Sorry, nothing new. "Sometimes just staying near the baby helps," it said.
"As opposed to going out for a beer?" I asked myself.
Uh-oh! Another expert. Dr. Tarig Ali-Dinar, a pediatric pulmonologist, says, "Some pediatricians have expressed concern that hands-off strategies like controlled comforting may harm children over the long term, by disrupting brain development, mother-child bonding, or the child's mental health."
Uh-huh. And I suppose "some pediatricians" don't say it. I also suppose someone knows what the hell it means, but the "expert" didn't bother to explain.
"Get to the point!" I was thinking.
Hey! Maybe this is it!
"Dr. Dennis Rosen, a pediatric sleep disorder specialist at Boston Children's Hospital, says...."
You're not going to believe this!
"...there is no wrong or right way to help children fall asleep."
Oh wonderful! I gave the rest of the article the 10,000-word-a-minute scan.
Tell you what, folks. Wasn't nothin in there my grandmother's grandmother couldn't have told me.
Why did they waste my time? So they could tell me that "there's no right or wrong way to help children fall asleep."
Including dropping the kid on his head? Can we quote you in a court of law?
I uttered my favorite word: "S--T!"
But then it occurred to me that there WAS some good news.
Since most stuff on mainstream media that include the words "study says" isn't worth listening to (or in my case, reading) we can safely skip it.
I learned something after all! :-)
My mom told me that there is a solution to the baby waking up crying. She said that she started out getting up every time the baby cried. She would give the baby his bottle of formula. The baby would quiet down. She then figured she would try giving the kid the bottle with just plain water. The baby would fuss but he would quiet down. After a few nights of getting only water, the baby stopped waking up crying. This solution worked for 3 babies who all grew up to be healthy kids.
I gave mine pacifiers.
That makes a lot of sense. It's like snapping someone's hand with a rubber band each time he lights up a cigarette. Except, of course, that there is no harm done, just no reward.
So did we. And I'm sure that you and Fred's mother, and everyone else, also did all the normal things.
My real complaint with the article was that all it was was a space filler. Promising headline, no substance.
:-) :-) :-)
Thanks!! I needed that!!!
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