Regarding the letter from Jeanne Medley, published in July 26, wherein she expresses her poor attitude and her agreement with a Mr. Cohen concerning the memorials along Highway 87, I am compelled to respond with these comments.
Instead of condemning others for their expression of grief over the loss of a loved one, you should count your blessings that none of the memorials are for you or someone you love.
Unless or until you can speak to the subject from experience, I would suggest you leave it alone and not pass judgment on the folks who are dealing with pain you cannot otherwise begin to understand, for there is no pain like this pain, and I wish it upon no one, not even you.
As to the memorial for the person killed "while driving impaired" I will add that you will not find a stronger advocate for stringent laws to deal with drinking drivers that am I, and my sentiments towards drunk drivers are no secret, but, this person paid the ultimate price for his or her mistake and he or she deserves to be lovingly remembered by the family left behind. So, I do not find that memorial or any other to be offensive.
I do, however, find Medley's attitude, and that of Mr. Cohen, to be extremely offensive.
Personally, I feel that seeing an appropriate marker at the scene of a fatal crash makes any reasonable person pause, if only for a brief moment, and reflect on the fact that someone died there and that person left behind a family who misses them and wishes with all their heart that the victim was still with them instead of being in the ground. And maybe, just maybe, the person who sees the marker may be a little more careful when driving, and perhaps as a result, his or her family will not have the need to erect a memorial to their life along a lonely piece of highway.
I have heard an expression that I believe is appropriate for this situation and it goes like this, "For those who understand, no explanation is necessary, and for those who do not understand, no explanation is possible." That pretty much sums it up.
Jim Estess, Pine