Wednesday July 27, 2016
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Thanks Tom. Yes, I was on the Board of Directors for Time Out. It was a very enriching and enlightening experience; albeit heartbreaking and discouraging. Knowing that we saved or improved even one life was enriching, however, seeing a victim make such improvement, and then learn that they have gone back to their abuser is heartbreaking.
The general consensus is that domestic violence is pretty much a lower socio-economic problem, which could not be further from the truth. I think many people would be surprised to learn the well-known and prominent citizens of our small town who are either victims or perpetrators of domestic violence.
As many people know, domestic violence is not only limited to fists, slaps, black eyes, fat lips and broken bones. In my opinion, the worst aspect of domestic violence is the total and complete breakdown of a person’s self-esteem to the point that they believe the denigrating things their abuser says to them. Mental abuse is typically how the abuser “opens the door” to physical abuse.
Many of us have heard parents tell little girls that when little boys hit, chase, pull pigtails, etc. it means they like them. I deplore hearing that as it simply reinforces later in life that if a man is mean to a woman, it means he cares. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Love shouldn’t hurt.
Understanding the dynamics of a domestic abuse situation, as well as the frustration of law enforcement with victims who refuse to testify or press charges against their abuser, are a double edged sword.
In my opinion, this judge should have come up with a better option for the victim. However, the judge was probably beyond frustrated, knowing that with such a miniscule sentence for the abuser, it would just serve as an irritant for the abuser, who would be angry at serving any time in jail, as well as losing his job. Studies show that one of the most dangerous times for a victim is when she is trying to leave her abuser. In this case, if the victim had shown up in court, in all likelihood, the abuser would have gotten a lengthier sentence, thereby giving the victim more time to get herself together and learn that she can do it on her own.
On the other hand, I have sat in court here in Gila County for domestic violence cases. The layout of our court rooms is such that the victim and the abuser are less than 20 feet apart, and facing each other. I watched an abuser mouthing words of apology and “I love you’s”, weeping and putting on a real display for the victim. It can be very hard on a victim with diminished self-esteem, as well as a deep fear of her abuser, and the insecurity of not knowing what the future may hold for her without her abuser.
October is Domestic Violence awareness month, and tonight, Wednesday, October 14, will be the Time Out Candlelight Walk and Vigil. The walk will begin at Expedition Church and starts at, I believe 5:00pm. This is a very moving experience to take part in. I encourage anybody who is free to join us.
Tom, Butch Klein, and his wonderful wife Kathy, lived next door to my parents. That was my first, but by no means last, introduction to them. Butch Klein was a man among men. He was a man who loved God, loved people and loved life. He was a man to be looked up to, listened to, and emulated. I was blessed to have known Butch and Kathy Klein. I wish peace and grace on Kathy, and Godspeed to Butch. I know that Butch is rejoicing with the angels in his heavenly home.
Yes, you are correct, this world would be a far better place with more Butch Klein's in it. You would have liked him.
Butch was an amazing man. While I grieve our loss and have to accept that we will no longer have the blessing of seeing his beautiful, joy filled face on Earth, I also rejoice, for I know that Butch is safe in the arms of our Savior who he loved so very much.
Butch was a man among men. He will be greatly missed.
By the way, to answer your question, KRIM posted it on their Facebook page within minutes of the incident occurring.
Pat, far be it for me to attempt to speak for Don or Ron, as they both speak quite eloquently for themselves. However, I believe the point is, that they are both, as well as are many others who do not post on here, perplexed as to why a news organization on the other side of the country posted the news of the shooting within hours of the incident, however, the Payson Roundup had nothing. It is irrelevant when the Payson Roundup is released, as the on-line version is changed, updated and current every day of the week.
News of the shooting was on social media within minutes. Not hours, not days, but MINUTES!
We cannot all live in a fantasy world where every social boundary, and every personal wish is entirely respected, and observed. News is news. The Payson Roundup is supposed to be in the business of reporting the NEWS. This shooting, whether, you, or I, or anybody else, like it, or not, is/was NEWS.
As for your comment to Mr. Evans regarding a picture, that was an ugly and nasty thing to say. Mr. Evans is NOT a ghoul, nor a gossip monger. His complaint was simply wondering why our LOCAL news source was usurped by a news agency on the other side of the country. Which is a valid question.
Finally, nobody is looking to "hash things out on here", people are simply wondering why our "award winning local newspaper" dropped the ball.
But of course Pat!!! It is no secret that the esteemed Publisher, as well as his Editor are diehard Kenny advocates!!
"Do you feel that the police officer, no matter what the circumstances were, was in any way responsible for the crash?"
Absolutely not! While my heart breaks for the loss of a young person, and for the devastation that his family, friends and loved ones must surely be feeling (and my prayers go out to them), he was the sole architect of his decisions.
If every single one of us sped up or drove erratically when a law enforcement vehicle was behind us, communities would be in chaos. The report indicates that initially the motorcyclist was not speeding and that the Officer did not intend to stop him. The Officer was merely pulling into traffic. However, the motorcyclist clearly had fear and/or concerns about law enforcement being behind him. Whatever those concerns were, they were compelling enough to make Mr. Breyette drive erratically, and dangerously, at a high rate of speed, in an effort to avoid law enforcement. Once he began driving erratically and at a high rate of speed, that "raised red flags" for the Officer, thereby indicating to the Officer that further investigation was merited.
Based solely on the facts in this story, in my opinion, all culpability falls on Mr. Breyette; and the Officer was in no way responsible for this crash.
Oh Pat, my goodness, I had quite a few more interactions with Mr. Voden than it sounds like you had. I would certainly not say that we were friends, however, we knew one another by sight and always exchanged greetings, and chat's. And, I still agree with Stephanie.
Mr. Voden made me very uncomfortable.
Of course, his wife has been in my prayers, as has Mr. Burnett's family.
For you to imply that one must choose sides in determining who to pray for is astounding.
Mr. Voden was a troubled man. For Mr. Burnett to have been shot 4 times, 2 of them IN THE BACK answers all of my questions.
For me, my prayers go out to all of them. Yes, including Mr. Voden. God will take care of the rest.
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